Do you label yourself as a failure? Here are ways to overcome it.
Updated: Jan 7
Many people think about their failures in life so much that it becomes a part of them. It happens because they think and talk about it often.
Hence, they don't find a way to get rid of that feeling. People take failure to their heart, and they remain unexpressed.
If failure impacts your mental health, you're not alone. People undergo a lot of mental stress because they take the failure to their heart.
Does failure affect you?
Your life experiences create a program in your mind. You start giving constant signals to your mind that you cannot fail.
Eventually, your brain starts considering failure as unacceptable. You begin to react even when something small goes wrong in your life. And hence you show frustration when things aren't favourable for you.
You become conscious to ensure you don't fail at something. It makes the whole process stressful for you. You send negative signals to your mind.
See failure with a new perspective:
You never fail, but you fail to produce the results. Because you failed at something, you can't consider yourself an unsuccessful person. You can succeed at something, but you don't become a successful person. If you are stuck at something, find where you should take positive action.
Both success and failure is a result of your effort and timing. It indicates one of your life experiences and doesn't represent you.
If you take one failure to your heart, you are not even ready for the next challenge. Consider your life as a sport. Do you quit when you don't win? You come back stronger and give your best shot, don't you?
Failure shows you missed something and not everything in your life.
Your experience can be a guiding light:
The experience of failure can help you grow. Both success and failure shape you as a unique human being.
The purpose of your life is experience. And the experience isn't always a joy. Your emotions would test you frequently, and you have no choice but to learn to manage them better each time.
You can learn from your experiences, which great books can't teach you. When experience becomes your source of knowledge, you can either go right or wrong. It depends on what experience you consider to make decisions.
Some of your experiences can be a guiding light, while others can become a barrier. Choose it wisely because your future depends on it.
The impact of failure in your life:
Any area of your life is prone to breakdown. Be it your career, relationship, money or personal joy. Nothing is bright forever.
If you fail in a relationship, you may lose hope in relationships. You may label yourself as someone unlucky in a relationship. You may avoid another relationship and miss the happy ones.
In your career, your future decisions can depend on your past companies' work culture or boss. You may miss good opportunities because you don't want to work in toxic work culture.
When you fail in your first business, you may not attempt a new business again. So, when you get a new business idea, the thought of your past failure would create a mental barrier.
Failure exists only in your mind. If you think about what could go wrong constantly, you will attract chances of failure. So, don't hold on to your thoughts about your past.
When something doesn't work, find another way. If it doesn't work either, create another path.
You are the first person to limit your beliefs. If you aren't successful at something, accept it and move on. You can't sit and brood over. There are amazing things in your life waiting for you. Success and failure cannot define you in life.
Be around people who spread positive vibes. You require the motivation to come out of negative thoughts.
Be happy with your achievements and move ahead with positivity.